Over the course of his more than 30-year hypnotherapy career, Dr. John Kappas founded the Hypnosis Motivation Institute, College of Hypnotherapy, literally defined the terms "hypnotist", "hypnotherapist" and "hypnotherapy" for the "Dictionary of Occupational Titles" and founded both the American Hypnosis Association and the Hypnotherapist's Union Local 472. But perhaps his biggest contribution to hypnotherapy is the "E&P" model of Emotional & Physical Suggestibility and Emotional & Physical Sexuality. These models have come to form the foundation of the Kappasinian school of Hypnotherapy.
Dr. Kappas named the ends of his scale "Emotional" and "Physical". Physically suggestible minds tend to process input in a literal fashion and emotionally suggestible minds tend to be more analytical and prefer a more indirect approach. No one is 100% in either direction. We all fall somewhere along the scale, though some have stronger indications in one direction or the other.
In the Kappasinian system, a "Physical" is someone with a strong linkage between mind and body. A physical person tends to take in information in a very literal sense. They tend to use more words to communicate an idea. The Physical uses the physical body as a defense to protect emotions, needs physical touch, sex equals love, hates rejection, acts before thinking, has a hard time letting go of relationships, not concerned how others see them, speaks inferentially but hears literally, family-oriented.
An "Emotional" might be more clearly called an "Analytical". More compartmentalized, an emotional tends to communicate in a more inferential way. They tend to have a perceived separation between mind and body. Some of the traits of an Emotional are: puts emotions first to protect the body, suppresses feelings, worries how others see them, needs alone time, sex equals romance, work-oriented, talks literally, but hears inferentially, thinks before acting, quiet, doesn't like crowds, ends relationships easily.
If you have ever read "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus", though the author was targeting some perceived societal differences in a popular way, the book would likely have been more accurate from a Kappasinian perspective if it was titled "Emotionals are from Mars and Physicals are from Venus". These differences are not based upon sex, 50% of men are Emotionals and 50% are Physicals, the same goes for women.
The survey questions were written by Dr. John Kappas and are scored according to his formula. I do not claim them as my own and I use them as both a student of Dr. Kappas's work and as a graduate of the school he founded. If you want to, you can Take this assessment on the HMI site. HMI is the school founded by Dr. Kappas and the school I graduated from. Otherwise, you can take the Sexuality Quiz below.
It has been my experience that the term "Emotional" tends to cause confusion. If you think about the two lead characters in the original "Star Trek" series, Captain Kirk was a very strong Physical in Kappasinian terms and Mr. Spock was a very strong "Emotional". See the problem? Spock was very non-emotional in the way that most people define "emotional". I understand why Dr. Kappas chose the word, but for the vast majority of people, using it only adds confusion. So, to remain faithful to and in credit to Dr. Kappas, I still use the word "emotional" when describing the theory here. However, I use the alternate term "Analytical" almost exclusively when speaking to groups or with clients. In terms of the "Spock" end of the Kappasinian spectrum, Analytical causes a lot less confusion than "Emotional" does.
The Kappasinian Sexuality theory prizes balance. If you take away only one thing from this exercise, let it be that no matter where you are on the scale, the theory states that your ideal match will balance you out.
That is, if you are a Strong Physical, your ideal match is a Strong Analytical. If you are a Moderate Analytical, you will pair well with a Moderate Physical, and so on.
It doesn't "have to be" that way, but the theory also states that two Physicals together tend to be "friends", and two Analyticals often become competitors.
If you find yourself paired with someone who does not offset your position on the scale, one or both of you will begin to manifest traits that bring things back into balance.
When you picture the Kappasinian Sexuality scale, you can imagine it this way:
Emotional/Analytical/Mr. Spock-------------Centered--------------Physical/Captain Kirk
This assessment asks questions about how you feel and behave in a relationship.
If you are not in a relationship or are in a new relationship that is still in the "honeymoon" phase where your partner seems perfect and you have never had a fight, answer the questions based upon your experience in a previous relationship.
The same goes for a relationship that is in the "trauma" stage, that ugly period of intense dislike that sometimes ends a relationship.
The Kappasinian Sexuality Assessment is old enough that the language may seem a bit dated and it doesn't embrace relationships that are other than "traditional". If your relationship, sexuality, or gender are other than those that are viewed as "traditional", you can still take the test and the results are still valuable, but you may need to apply a bit of interpretation to make the results match your world.
This assessment is presented faithfully as designed by Dr. John Kappas. Despite needing an update, the principles are still sound and no offense is meant by the language used. I am aware of the issues is has in current society and present it on an "As Is" basis.
A NOTE ABOUT CONFIDENTIALITY: Some of the questions in this assessment are are very personal. We promise to keep your information completely confidential. That means that we won't share your answers with ANYONE and we certainly won't sell your data. All responses are treated as confidential client data. Period.
As you consider your score from this quiz, either alone or with a partner, one thing to note about the theory is the concept of "balance". According to Dr. Kappas, relationships work best when they have a balance between Analytical and Physical. So, if you are a Moderate Analytical, then the theory says your ideal partner will be a Moderate Physical, and so on...
Where it gets interesting is that if that balance does not exist in the relationship, one or both of you will be begin to manifest traits that will balance things out. If your partner in combination listed above is a Very Strong Physical, you will make the move out toward the Very Strong Analytical, or they may move in more toward the more moderate to adapt to you, or both.
From my personal experience, and from working with my clients, I've seen that the adaption part of this theory is true.
Dr. Kappas detailed his sexuality theories in the book "Relationship Strategies". It's a little hard to find, sometimes Amazon has it used in paperback, sometimes they don't. You can find it on eBay pretty regularly as well. But your best bet may be to visit that used bookstore in town that you have always meant to go into... I am sure you know the one...
Or, better yet, come see me :)